I want to live in a world where little girls are not pinkified, but where little girls who like pink are not punished for it, either. We can certainly talk about the social pressures surrounding gender roles, and the concerns that people have when they see girls and young women who appear to be forced into performances of femininity by the society around them, but let’s stop acting like they have no agency and free will. Let’s stop acting like women who choose to be feminine are somehow colluders, betraying the movement, bamboozled into thinking that they want to be feminine. Let’s stop denying women their own autonomy by telling them that their expressions of femininity are bad and wrong.
Antifemininity is misogynist. What you are saying when you engage in this type of rhetoric is that you think things traditionally associated with women are wrong. Which is misogynist. By telling feminine women that they don’t belong in the feminist movement, you are reinforcing the idea that to be feminine and a woman is wrong, that women who want to be taken seriously need to be more masculine, because most people view gender presentation in binary ways. This rewards the ‘one of the boys’ type rhetoric I encounter all over the place from self-avowed feminists who seem to think that bashing on women is a good way to prove how serious they are when it comes to caring about women and bringing men into the feminist movement.
He says it’s “in case I forget to say it.” Congratulations dude, you have the permanent body mod equivalent of the “Lucky You” they used to put in the fly of Lucky jeans. You’re the walking, breathing, dumb fucking idea spewing, embodiment of an Abercrombie tee.
Will.i.am thinks that a woman keeping condoms in her home is a "tacky" dealbreaker. Huh, that’s interesting, considering he’s responsible for this fuckery. I think that’s a pretty tacky dealbreaker, you fucking idiot.
While you all are enjoying your long weekend, I’m embarking on what is a terrible “Thursday.” I’m anticipating a battle with the owner of the company I’ve worked for since 2008 about receiving stat pay. As in, getting it at all. She seems to understand stat pay as optional? This is the same woman, who came over to spy on me a minute ago, and then scowled when I waved hello and just walked away without further acknowledging me.